All living things are created by such that they have the need to live as families, communities. Everyone (people, animals, birds) has the need to create a family. But if animals do this because of the satisfaction of instinct, then people are not only for this reason.
A person distinguishes from an animal his mind, which gives him the opportunity to think, think, feel, love, compassion, offend, cause pain to another person. These feelings and emotions accompany a person throughout life and can affect differently in the situation of the fate of a person. All people are similar in their desires. Everyone wants to live happily their life. One of the goals of this happy life is the creation of a family where everyone takes its place and fulfills their duties. As a rule, a “creation of a family” means a beautiful prepared wedding, buying prosperous housing and its improvement, buying a car, birth of children and their education. It would seem that it is not at all difficult, and every able -bodied person can do it.
The most difficult thing to build a happy family hearth is a long good relationship between households. Indeed, in recent years, many families are destroyed, repeating the same mistakes again and again. The reasons, of course, can be different. But the basis of any conflict and family quarrel is the misunderstanding of each other that appears due to the lack of open dialogue. Life is full of such negative phenomena as deception, envy, heartlessness, arrogance, hypocrisy, etc. D. It is important to distinguish these qualities and prevent their appearance at home, because it is they who lead to the destruction of marriage. The family can collapse very quickly, and it is much more difficult to restore it.
Initially, the household should decide on their duties, position. Determine the basic principles and rules of the family, impeccably follow them. So, for example, one family believes that dad should make money. And mom sit at home and care for home, husband and children, educate them. And children, in turn, obey parents and obey them. If each of this family will follow the rule, then perhaps they will live without much unrest. Naturally, it will have minor conflicts, because a person is a very emotional being. He reacts differently to various situations that make him rejoice or be upset.
The family was originally built on the love of two people who must be able not to lose, but to fix even more. Children are the fruits of these two hearts. The family becomes complete and dense. The bonds of the spouses are tied even stronger. Life becomes brighter and more fun. But, again, not for life.
Children grow up, go into adult life. And dad and mom, who are constantly accustomed to care and patronize their children, cannot wean from this, and begin to create problems for their children. Without noticing that, parents continue to educate, take care of the child, at a time when for the child this is called “dictated”, “interfere”, “climb into someone else’s life”. At this stage of the family life, the problem of “fathers and children” arises. These are some of the reasons why the family is destroyed. As mentioned above, it is necessary to decide on the place in the family, society, otherwise a person himself creates problems for himself, his family and friends.
Thus, people from generation to generation do everything the same, make the same mistakes. Only time changes, technology. Good relations in the family are built for years, but you can ruin them in one word or act. The family is the most important thing that is in a person’s life, and it must be able to store, value and live in harmony with oneself and relatives.
