Divorce breaks the fate of not only adults, but also children. If for parents it is more and less clear, then for children it can become very tragic. The child immediately arises questions with which of the parents to stay after the divorce, how to behave with the dad, who leaves the family to another house, as relates to his new wife and so on. Sometimes, it is not so easy for a child to cope with falling problems. Different feelings are mixed here: love and resentment for the mother, who was abandoned, the desire to be with dad, to see him more often.
“I was always funny, how the kids believe all that you tell them” Ketrin Stockett.
Parents’ task, part so that, as little as possible to injure your child. Here you need to try.
It is necessary that both mom and dad talk frankly with the child. You need to do this in a simple form, given age.
Do not lie to the child, tell us how it is
Try not to distort the truth with your resentment;
Try to explain the causes of parting;
Tell us how your life and relationship will take shape in the future. The child should know and understand that he will have a mother and dad.
It will be easier for the child if his mother does not tell him bad things about dad.
Do not forbid your child to see or call back with your father. Yes, you are offended, you suffer, but remember that the child is much harder.
Very difficult, but you need to control yourself and perceive the enthusiasm of the child after meeting with your father, calmly.
There are daddy who, moving away from a woman, forget about children. Here you are not only painful for a woman, but first of all to a child. Do not forget about him, he needs you anyway.
If you have other relationships, gradually bring the child to changes.
Situations and problems that arise in the process of divorce a lot. But it is important to maintain human relations at least in memory of the years lived together. There was a lot of good.
Is it worth saving a family for children?
Some of the parents continue to live together for children. But I don’t think that such sacrifices need a child. After all, not just to see how parents constantly swear or are deeply indifferent to each other. Moreover, the child will grow, marry or get married, he will have his own family, and you will remain unhappy. Time will take, the older you are, the more difficult it is to arrange your life. Everyone deserves happiness and love. Do not refuse it. Divorce is a step towards a new, unknown.
